When was the last time you compared yourself to others? When you compare, do you compare yourself to people who are better or worse than you are? What feelings come up after you’ve made the comparisons? The last time I compared myself with other people was just last week when I saw an old colleagueContinueContinue reading “My Inferiority Complex from Comparing”
Category Archives: Love Yourself
My Relationship with Sex
Growing up, we didn’t talk about sex in my family. We didn’t see my parents kiss or show affection. When there are sex scenes on movies, we awkwardly cover our eyes or make gawking noises to show our disapproval. One time my dad jokingly grabbed my mom’s butt and breast. It scarred me for life.ContinueContinue reading “My Relationship with Sex”
How Feeling Unworthy Kept Me in Bad Relationships
After my last post on my upbringing without my mom, I connected with my mom. I expressed my resentment toward her absence when we were growing up, but also shared that I have an inkling that she may have been going through struggles and conflicts that made it difficult for her to show up asContinueContinue reading “How Feeling Unworthy Kept Me in Bad Relationships”
My Marriage and Divorce
People see marriage as a once-in-a-liftetime event. Some see it as a milestone, an item to check off from one’s list of things to do to be successful. Girls dream about becoming a bride. They plan out their wedding even before having a boyfriend. They know what style dress they want and what color schemeContinueContinue reading “My Marriage and Divorce”
My Body Image Struggles
I had a complicated relationship with food and my body image in high school. Media played a part of it, but the needle that broke the camel’s back was when my dad told me that my face looked a bit rounder. In his way, he told me that I was fat. In his perspective, itContinueContinue reading “My Body Image Struggles”
It’s Not Too Late for Change
Despite the recognition that all of our experiences have shaped us and brought us to where we are today, it’s natural for us to be looking back and figuring out what we could have done differently. If there’s one thing that I still feel bad about, it’s that I did not stand up for myContinueContinue reading “It’s Not Too Late for Change”
Own Your Insecurity
Free yourself and take your power back by being secure in who you are–flaws and all.Yvonne Pierre, The Day My Soul Cried: A Memoir What’s an insecurity that comes to haunt you over and over again? Mine is my voice. I have a higher-pitched voice that can sound childlike, which has put me at aContinueContinue reading “Own Your Insecurity”
Choose Yourself
For most of my life, I strove to put others before me. More and more, however, I’m seeing that I need to be prioritizing myself first. It’s never a bad thing to choose yourself––Pose This quote is from the original Netflix TV series Pose and it is a great reminder for me every single dayContinueContinue reading “Choose Yourself”