Effective Goal Setting that I Learned through Lifting

We are often settings goals. We have dreams and aspirations. Most of the time, I hear a lot of, "I need to start doing X," "I need to do more of Y," but what I've observed from my own experience is that when I say that I need to start something or do more ofContinue reading "Effective Goal Setting that I Learned through Lifting"

Achieve More with the Habit of Following Through

My dad always stressed the importance of following through with your actions. He instilled this in us with simple everyday tasks such as completing the sentence you are writing or word you are writing before moving away from your desk. As a now-person (someone who needs to do something as the thought comes through), IContinue reading "Achieve More with the Habit of Following Through"

My Inferiority Complex from Comparing

When was the last time you compared yourself to others? When you compare, do you compare yourself to people who are better or worse than you are? What feelings come up after you've made the comparisons? The last time I compared myself with other people was just last week when I saw an old colleagueContinue reading "My Inferiority Complex from Comparing"

From My Financial Woe to My Financial Win

I'd like to empower my readers to strive for financial independence. I've known since a young age that I needed to be financially independent so I am not dependent on anyone for the sake of money, but I didn't learn to properly manage my spending until the last year or so. Financial independence can meanContinue reading "From My Financial Woe to My Financial Win"

My Relationship with Sex

Growing up, we didn't talk about sex in my family. We didn't see my parents kiss or show affection. When there are sex scenes on movies, we awkwardly cover our eyes or make gawking noises to show our disapproval. One time my dad jokingly grabbed my mom's butt and breast. It scarred me for life.Continue reading "My Relationship with Sex"

How Feeling Unworthy Kept Me in Bad Relationships

After my last post on my upbringing without my mom, I connected with my mom. I expressed my resentment toward her absence when we were growing up, but also shared that I have an inkling that she may have been going through struggles and conflicts that made it difficult for her to show up asContinue reading "How Feeling Unworthy Kept Me in Bad Relationships"

My Upbringing with(out) My Mom

I grew up without a mom. I have a mom, but she was absent. If she wasn't sleeping, she would leave home for a week or a month at a time. Don't ask me where she went. I have no idea. When we lived in Taiwan, we relied on Mcdonald's and favors from extended familyContinue reading "My Upbringing with(out) My Mom"

My Marriage and Divorce

People see marriage as a once-in-a-liftetime event. Some see it as a milestone, an item to check off from one's list of things to do to be successful. Girls dream about becoming a bride. They plan out their wedding even before having a boyfriend. They know what style dress they want and what color schemeContinue reading "My Marriage and Divorce"

My Body Image Struggles

I had a complicated relationship with food and my body image in high school. Media played a part of it, but the needle that broke the camel's back was when my dad told me that my face looked a bit rounder. In his way, he told me that I was fat. In his perspective, itContinue reading "My Body Image Struggles"