About

I know what it cost you to make that decision.
And I know it was worth it.

At 32, I had everything I was supposed to want.

My husband was about to become a lawyer. My career was taking off. We were looking at condos together, checking every box, doing all the “right” things.

And I was deeply, quietly unhappy.

He was my best friend. I loved him. But somewhere along the way I realized we weren’t meant to be romantic partners — and that realization crushed me. Because if I wasn’t happy with this, with everything society said I should want… what did that say about me?

So I did what a lot of us do. I pushed it down. I told myself it would pass. I convinced myself that even if I’d waited longer to get married, I still would have chosen him.

For years, I kept pretending everything was fine.

Then one day I went to a values workshop that changed everything.

We were asked to identify our core values — circling ten, then narrowing to five, then three. When I looked down at my final three words, I felt the air leave the room.

Independence. Freedom. Growth.

I stared at those words and everything suddenly made sense. I wasn’t ungrateful. I wasn’t disillusioned. I wasn’t broken.

I was misaligned.

I was living a life that didn’t honor who I really was — or who I was becoming.

That clarity gave me the courage to do the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

I talked to my husband. We separated.

It was heartbreaking. I was terrified of disappointing my parents, losing his family, failing at marriage, not being able to support myself. And the biggest fear that kept me up at night: What if I’m wrong?

But for the first time in years, I felt clear. And I felt free.

That was over eight years ago.

Today I’m standing here as myself — independent, thriving, and proud of the life I’ve built. Everything I was afraid I’d lose — travel, financial security, a home of my own — I built it. On my own terms.

If I hadn’t made that terrifying choice, I’d still be living a life that didn’t fit me. Still a shadow of who I was meant to become.

That experience taught me something I now believe with everything I have: no matter how impossible a situation feels, you always have a choice. It won’t be easy. But it can lead you somewhere better — to a life that’s actually, finally, yours.

This is why I became a divorce coach.

Because this was the support I desperately needed and couldn’t find. Because I know exactly what it feels like to be the one who made the call — and to have the world look at you like you had it easy because you chose to leave.

I’ve worked with both men and women who initiated their divorce, and what strikes me every time is how universal the experience is — the guilt, the isolation, the second-guessing. It doesn’t matter who you are. If you chose to leave, you deserve support.

You didn’t have it easy. You just chose yourself. And that deserves to be supported, not judged.

If you’re the one who initiated — or the one who’s about to — I want to talk to you.